Mission & Goals

STAHRS was created to reduce family violence through educating our students. Domestic Violence, also known as Intimate Partner Abuse, is probably the most serious problem that drives all the issues affecting our society and communities. Teen Dating Violence statistics mirror those of adult relationship violence, and recently females have shown to use physical violence more than the males - this is historic! And it typically comes from witnessing too much violence against their mothers.


As one 17yo young client once stated, "I will never let a man put his hands on me the way my mother did." And since she could box, she knocked out her boyfriend during an argument /conflict.


Domestic violence has been associated with slightly over half of all mass shootings in the United States in the past 20 years. Revenge & retaliation for bullying is a driving force behind such extreme actions, as one-third of school shooters reported bullying by peers. And these individuals appear to have targeted the general population of students, potentially for feeling "rejected" in the first place.


Bullying at home by adults and siblings had been a considerable factor for many of the men, women, and teens that I've helped professionally in counseling.
We need to create less active shooters through inclusion, empathy, compassion, & understanding. Bringing a marginalized peer into the fold could make a world of difference to that student who already feels different, rejected, abandoned, & isolated.


My ultimate goal is to educate young men and women about relationship dynamics and the negative effects of interpersonal violence. I want to teach them how to create healthy dynamics and how to identify and avoid unhealthy & abusive dynamics. STAHRS will address healthy conflict resolution and communication skills. I am trying to prevent these young men and women from becoming professional clients in the future, and thereby, reduce child abuse, domestic violence, substance abuse, and school shootings.


Prior to the COVID crisis, I offered perspectives to the Colorado State Legislature's joint School Safety Committee to fully understand how these issues are connected and how our students are the solution.
I hope to get involved with the Department of Education here on O'ahu, too.